Yesterday, the quote “where focus goes, energy flows” popped up in my head and it really hit me.
This past week has been a rough one for me because I was in an absolutely terrible mindset. I acted fine on the outside but on the inside I was bombarding myself with negative self talk. I was so incredibly stressed and anxious about my life and where it was going that my chest and heart actually started to hurt (side note: I did check in with a doctor and it was stress). I was feeding every insecurity that I have, with words of discouragement and bitterness. What’s so weird is that before this week I was doing totally fine then I started freaking out about certain things and my outlook just kept getting worse and worse. I was focusing on all of the things that weren’t going the way I wanted them to and put myself in a terrible mindset by dwelling on it.
Then that quote popped up on my Instagram feed, I almost immediately snapped myself out of it. I realized that nothing is going to get better if I spend all my time upset over what is going wrong. I am in complete control of where I want my life to go. So to help myself get back into the zone and focus on the good things, I did a few of my go to tricks:
Fill your mind with inspiration
Have you ever felt sad so you turn on sad music only to make you feel worse? Yeah, not a good plan bud. It’s important to read a book that helps motivate you or to watch a movie that inspires you. Fill your mind and soul with positivity in any way that resonates with you.
Have a dance party
This isn’t for everyone although it really should be. Whenever I am sad (or excited), I like to dance it out. You don’t have to throw an impromptu sidewalk performance, just dance alone in your room to your favorite song. No one ever has to know. 99% of the time I feel a million times better when I do.
Talk to someone you trust
I like to give myself less than five minutes to vent and get everything off my chest and then let it go. What’s funny is usually after spending a little time actually voicing my frustrations to someone else I feel like the concerns have less power over me. And if that isn’t the case for the situation, it still helps to work through them with someone instead of being on your own.
Write about it
Everyone has their own ways of coping with things, I find that it can actually help me to journal and write out all of the situations I feel trapped in. I use the time to also make plans on how I am going to fix or change it so it doesn’t have as strong of a hold over me. Like it is when talking to someone, it’s really interesting to see how different the problems you feel look when they’re not only trapped in your mind.
I know when I am feeling stressed, anxious, and sad that the first thing I want to do is lock myself in my room with netflix and be absolutely alone. Not a good coping mechanism. Force yourself to go outside and be around nature or people. You don’t have to talk to anyone if you don’t want to but I feel like seeing that life keeps moving forward even when you feel stuck can be soothing if you allow it to be.
I am sure this won’t be the last time I get caught up in the difficulties of life but I do know that it is up to me what I decide to dwell on. It is so important to be mindful of how you think and talk to yourself. Be kind and loving to yourself, be grateful for all you have, and know that truly where your focus goes is where the energy flows.